Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological readiness for sex, anticipation of pleasure, and direct physiological reactions of the body. How this process occurs in men and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman to know.
Where did it all start?
The beginning of excitation is laid by various sensory stimuli. The smell of a girl, her kisses and touches, external appearance (especially nakedness) stimulate the centers in the brain that send signals to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and 4th part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the level of male arousal. This conclusion was drawn from a study whose results were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of Sexual Arousal".
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the large body of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, causing the penis to become hard, enlarge (on average 3-4 times), and pulsation is felt. Often this reaction occurs within seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, erections can weaken and strengthen again - this is normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published research conducted on 20 thousand men. The size of their genitals was measured. Men from all over the world take part. As a result, the average penis size at rest was 9. 16 cm, and when erect - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them – nocturnal (spontaneous) – occurs without sexual overtones. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of excitation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – appears as a result of touching the penis. Because this organ has many nerve endings and the skin is very sensitive, even a light touch can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to erections, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing becomes more rapid, and his blood pressure increases (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become denser, and the testicles rise. The upper body becomes slightly red. Lubricating fluid is released, facilitating the passage of sperm through the ducts.
What turns men on?
In addition to beautiful images (naked women, or wearing lacy underwear, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay also plays a big role. Men also need it to make the arousal as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genitals and surrounding areas.
Foreplay, in most cases, starts with kissing. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a man in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips, besides which he feels his partner's sexuality and anticipates the upcoming sex. At this time, the occipital area can be stroked with hands, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like to have their earlobes kissed and bitten, but you need to be careful with this, because there are also those who definitely don't like this process.
The lower abdomen is an excellent area to caress before engaging in oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, this can be done not only with hands, but also with lips, hair and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear - any movement in this area is permissible and causes sexual arousal in men. You should be wary of sudden movements, men may fear for the safety of their pride. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the partner's desires. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which can be stroked with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, because the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly in all men, and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you are first aroused psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a question that most people rarely know. What does science say? He considered arousal to be a physiological sexual response.
Or rather, the first phase. That is, a series of processes. They have no gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and goosebumps, as well as nipple erection.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, sights and sounds change. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like drugs. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, the scrotum rises to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculatory fluid to lubricate the head.
In women there is additional lubrication, thinning or, conversely, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), clitoral erection, rise and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubosacral muscles, and an increase in the size of the uterus. vaginal length.
By the way, if in men redness of the skin is rare, then in women blood flow occurs not only in the clitoris and labia, but also in the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so visible that during and after orgasm, the area between the chest to the shoulders and neck can even become red.
Why are there so many reactions? They are related to the blood flow that the body carries out to achieve greater sensitivity in the genital organs, and readiness for the second phase in the cycle of sexual reactions - sexual intercourse. After the arousal phase, there are: the plateau phase (sexual intercourse), the orgasm phase, and the completion phase of the sexual reaction.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is often a physical problem rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which erectile strength is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic, and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is associated with organic forms resulting from various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular disease, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to body organs and hormonal levels are disturbed.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking certain medications, especially those affecting the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, blood flow to the pelvic organs weakens, which is why the main reaction of sexual arousal in men does not occur - filling of the cavernous bodies withblood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical condition, but also the psychological one, which is why impotence passes from an organic to a mixed form. You cannot delay this situation; at first it can be easily fixed. You need to see a urologist or sex therapist.
Men are sexually aroused more often than they reach orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. The favorite female motto "we will excite you and will not let you down" is fine - you should not overuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously impacts not only physical but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in how to get it - during sex or masturbation.